Firstly, I'm excited to share that I've been continuing my journey of self discovery, improvement, and a focus on how to become a better version of me. Thankfully I'm surrounded by people who are either doing the same or who are supportive of me, which has helped immensely. So much so that I believe I would have given up months ago had it not been for there help and support, most notably from my wife Sarah.
So, you might ask why I've not been blogging more often? Well... Simply put - it's a much higher priority that I work on myself than it is for me to share that in my blog. Also, this isn't going to change the world, it's more of a tracking mechanism for me to look back on later. I recently had a chance to chat with a Billionaire (yes really) and before than conversation I did some research on him and read a few articles from his blog, which he hadn't added to in a few years. When it was fitting, I referenced one of his posts from his blog and he seemed flattered and mentioned "Ha, I didn't think anyone even read that, which is why I stopped writing". I thought this was a similar response to what I might have said about my own blog, which I just found funny coming from an entrepreneur who had found extreme success like that.
So, tonight I just wanted to share a few things that I've come across recently and been impacted by. They don't necessarily relate to each other, but I think they are all really powerful.
1. There are Success Principles
This seems like a boring statement that might slide right off your shoulder without second thought, but to put it a stronger way - There are LAWS OF SUCCESS. Like the law of gravity, the law of magnetism, there are unseen "forces" that relate to success. You don't have to understand or even be aware of the law of gravity to fall, and you don't have to understand or be aware of the laws of success to be successful, but if you stop and think about it for a second, it sure helps to be aware of them, get to know them intimately, dwell on them daily, and understand how to best take advantage of them so that you don't land on your face and wonder why.
2. Growth requires change, change doesn't have to equal growth.
Growth is hard as it requires change, and we as people don't like to change, we like to be comfortable. Don't let the issues / struggles you are going through now be the same issues / struggles you are going through next year, as that would mean a whole year without much growth, or at least without enough growth in the areas that are causing you to struggle. Not to that that all things are solvable in a year, but if you don't see a positive trajectory in a years time, it may be longer than a lifetime for you to overcome that.
3. Decide First
One things I've started to do and I've seen other successful people do in many aspects of life is to first decide what is right, THEN figure out what it will take to make it happen. All to often people try to figure out what to DO and then "try" to make that give them what they want. I think more than anything, this is a critical shift in mindset. It makes perfect sense when you think about how you tackle any usual problem. First define the goal, then think of what you need to do to do to get there. First identify the problem, then figure out how to fix it.
Somehow in life most of us have gotten it backwards. People tend to just do - and then wonder why there life isn't what they want. When something new comes along, our first questions is "what is it, what do I have to do" rather than asking "what will this get me, and is that what I want". Figure out what the right choice is for your future, THEN figure out how to make it happen.
4. Mental Health & Physical Health
All of us know that being healthy is important, we may not all do anything about it, but most of us at least try from time to time to "get in shape" or "eat better" or "go to the gym". Improving oneself in any area is difficult and takes work and consistent effort. This is a normal topic to chat about with others, and it's easy because it's so external, you can visually SEE someone getting in better shape and ask them what they are doing to improve, etc. Why is it that most people never even consider mental health? And I'm not just talking about the extremes like going to therapy because you are lost in depression, I'm talking about what we do on a daily basis. Just like our physical body, we are most effected by what we do consistently, what we do daily. Sarah and I now actually put MORE effort and time into our mental health and training than we do to our physical health. Although I believe both are important, I'd argue that mental health will have a greater effect on your life and will often times lead to better physical health as well.
This ties back to point 4 a bit. But it's that as you look at what it would take to transform your life, consider this. The pain of discipline (mental or physical) is far better than the pain of regret.